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- Start point: from the top, or a specific second in the song
- Length: full song or your edit, and how it ends
- Dip cue: the moment of the dip, so music and lights hold there
- Lights: dimmed, spotlight, or normal
Agree on the introduction
Ask how the DJ will announce you and wait for that line before you walk in. A clear cue removes the awkward pause at the start.
Your Entrance and Starting Position
Clearly communicate your entrance plan to the DJ. Will you walk in from the side, or will you already be on the dance floor?
If you are walking in, tell the DJ where you will enter from and where you plan to meet your partner. This helps them direct guests' attention and coordinate lighting.
Knowing your starting positions allows the DJ to make sure microphones, if used for announcements, are not in the way, and that the spotlight hits you correctly from the very first moment. A smooth entrance sets the stage for a beautiful first dance.
Handling Guests Joining the Dance
Decide when and how you want guests to join you on the dance floor, if at all. Some couples prefer an intimate first dance alone, while others want to invite guests to join them for the last minute of the song or immediately after.
If you plan to have guests join, give your DJ specific instructions. Will the DJ make an announcement inviting them? When should this announcement happen? Should it be before a particular lyric, at a specific timestamp, or immediately after your dance concludes?
This detail prevents confusion and ensures your guests know when to join the celebration. A clear signal helps transition smoothly from your special moment to general dancing.
Consider if there are any specific guests you want to ensure are called out, like parents, before the general invitation. Provide a list of names if this is the case.
Backup Song and Contingency Plans
Even with careful planning, technical issues can arise. Provide your DJ with a backup song choice for your first dance. This is an extra layer of preparation that can save the moment if your primary song file is corrupted or unplayable.
Discuss with your DJ how they will signal you if an unexpected technical problem occurs during your dance. A subtle hand signal or a discreet word from the DJ can help you know what to do without disrupting the mood.
Agree on a quick course of action, such as pausing, leaving the floor, or continuing to sway to background music. This contingency plan ensures that you and your partner feel prepared for any situation, keeping your first dance stress-free.
Consider giving them a 'mood' song choice too, something similar to your first dance, in case the backup also fails. This ensures the music keeps flowing.
Questions people ask
Should guests join after the dance?
Tell the DJ if you want them invited at the end of your edit.
Should I provide the DJ with my song file?
Yes, always provide your DJ with a high-quality copy of your first dance song, even if they claim to have it. This prevents any issues with incorrect versions or poor audio quality.
What if we don't want a spotlight?
Communicate clearly if you prefer no spotlight, or if you'd like general ambient lighting instead. The DJ needs to know your specific lighting preferences to match the mood you envision.
Visit the studio
Dennis PaSamba Dance Company
4820 W. Irving Park Rd., Chicago, IL 60641
Six Corners · Portage Park · Irving Park
dennispasamba.com · Text/Call 717-PASAMBA ((717) 727-2622)